Information for Parents

If you have questions that are not answered below, please contact the President of North State Soccer at

North State Soccer Kaos/Missfits Competitive Tryouts:

What are tryouts and why do you hold them?
The aim of tryouts is to assess players’ level of ability. Players who are deemed to have the required skills to play at a competitive level will be invited to join the program.
Do I need to register for the tryouts and if so how do I register for tryouts?
All players must register for tryouts. To register please follow the link on the North State Soccer Website. Registration on site is available before each tryout, please arrive early.
Is there a fee for attending the tryouts?
No. We do not charge a fee to tryout for our teams as long as the player is registered.
Where/when are the try-outs being held?
The schedule and location of tryouts are on the North State Soccer website. Please arrive early to the tryout to ensure time to get checked in.
What if my daughter/son can't make it to all or some of the try-outs?
Players are encouraged to attend as many tryout sessions as possible to ensure they receive the best evaluation. If you are unable to attend any of the sessions please reach out to the team coach to find an alternative time & date.
My daughter/son is recovering from an injury and can't try-out. What should we do?
Please reach out to the team coach to find an alternative time & date if necessary (injured returning players do not need to tryout if the coach waives it).
What should my child wear on the day of tryouts?
Soccer attire, shin guards, cleats and a ball are a must.
Who evaluates the players?
The North State Soccer Director of Coaching, multiple evaluators and each team's coaching staff will evaluate the players at tryouts.
What age group should my child tryout for?
Our teams are based on calendar year ages (ie all the players born in 2007 are on the same team) and are "age pure", with the possible exception of "exceptional" players. Players can request play up an age group, but no one can play down. If you feel your player would be better suited for an older age group, please consult our Operating Documents for the procedure to request an evaluation. No player will be allowed to play up unless the player is first evaluated at his or her own age group and has made the team at his/her proper age group.
How many teams do you have at each age group?
North State Soccer strives to have multiple teams in each age group. These teams compete at different playing levels depending on the age group and level of competition.
Will my daughter/son receive any feedback from the try-out?
Either the Head Coach of the team or the Director of Coaching will inform players via phone or email as to their status. Additional feedback can be requested if necessary.
If my daughter/son makes the team what are the cost?
Costs vary by age group and team. The registration fee is currently $175 per player. Individual team fees vary, but typically range in the $300-$600 range per player (team fee covers items like practice field rental, tournaments, etc).
Are scholarships available?
Yes. Please contact the club president at: to discuss your situation.
How much travel is involved?
Most of our teams participate in the NorCal Premier League in the Fall. League schedule consists of 8-10 matches against, mainly, Sacramento based teams. Home/Away schedules vary but are typically heavy on travel to the Sacramento area. Our coaches try to schedule as many double headers as possible to reduce travel commitments. Additionally, teams will participate in 2-3 out of town tournaments during the season. These tournaments typically range from Southern Oregon to the Bay Area.
What are my options if I am not quite ready for Competitive soccer?
North State Soccer now offers an academy coached program twice a year to help better prepare players for tryouts . They will have spring and Fall Seasons. This is perfect for those players who need a little more coaching before they are ready for a competitive team.


Competitive teams participate in several tournaments each season. Fees for these tournaments are paid by the fees collected by the team. Often these tournaments are far from home and travel expenses (hotels, meals, etc.) should be anticipated.


Players are expected to come to practices and games and participate in all drills and activities as instructed by the coach. Players are to be respectful of coaches, officials, opponents and teammates. A player’s direct defiance of an official or coach, use of abusive language, or intentional striking of an official, coach, or another player is not allowed. Striking an official or coach will lead to an automatic suspension from the team, probable loss of membership and possible criminal charges.
Excessive talking and other disruptive behavior during instruction is not acceptable. A coach has the right to remove a player from a practice session or game if behavior problems become serious. The coach should then contact the parents and try to work out a solution. If a player’s behavior problems continue to where the team functioning is seriously disrupted, the coach should discuss the problem with the Division 3 Coordinator and the Division 3 Coaching Coordinator and may request a hearing to have the player removed from the team. Remember the Players Code:

  • Play soccer for the fun of it.

  • Play by the Rules.

  • Never argue with or complain about the referees calls or decisions and never question their honesty.

  • Control your temper and, most of all, resist the temptation to retaliate when you feel you have been wronged.

  • Concentrate on playing soccer and on affecting the outcome of the game with your best effort. Work equally as hard for your team as for yourself.

  • Be a good sport by cheering for all good plays, whether it is your teams or your opponent’s.

  • Treat all players as you would like to be treated.

  • Remember that the goals of the game are to have fun, improve skills and feel good. Don’t be a showoff and a ball-hog.

  • Remember to conduct yourself in a manner befitting someone representing themselves, their family, and our clubs.




Coaches are expected to be role models who project the spirit of the sport on and off the field. They are responsible for fairly applying the League’s policies. No coach shall use profanity or make derogatory remarks or gestures to a referee, parent official, player, parent, or spectator. A coach may never strike, shake, push, or otherwise physically assault a player. A coach has the responsibility to ensure that all players receive at least their minimum earned playing time during games. Follow the Coaches Code:

  • Enthusiastically support and practice “everyone plays/50% playing time” policies and positive coaching philosophies.

  • Be reasonable in your demands on the young players’ time, energy, enthusiasm and their performance on the soccer field.

  • Inform your players that they must abide by the rules of the game at all times.

  • Develop team respect for the ability of opponents, and for the judgment of referees and opposing coaches.

  • Ensure that your players’ soccer experience is one of fun and enjoyment (winning is only part of it). Players should never be yelled at or ridiculed for any reason.

  • Set a good example and be generous with your praise when it is deserved. Children need a coach they can respect.

  • Do not publicly question referees judgment and never their honesty.

  • Keep informed about “sound principles of coaching”; and “growth and development” principles relating to children.

  • Enlist the support of your team’s parents in your efforts to instill the proper attitudes and values in the players. Coaches are responsible for the conduct of their sideline.

  • Check equipment that you use. It should meet safety standards and be appropriate for the age and ability of your players. Bring all safety issues concerning facilities to the attention of the appropriate authority.

  • Follow the advice of a physician when determining when an injured child is ready to play again.

  • Abide by the rules of all leagues and tournaments in which your team participates.

  • Be a positive role model whenever you are around any players. If you feel a situation is getting out of control find a field marshal or other official to observe or assess the game/situation. Do not “take it into your own hands”. Defuse, rather than inflate problems.




It is the parent’s responsibility to monitor their child’s soccer experience. Parents who feel their child is not being treated fairly or in a positive manner by a coach should first make an effort to discuss the problem with the coach as soon as possible. This should be done by telephone or perhaps after a practice but never before or during a game. If the problem is not resolved after discussion with the coach, then the parent may contact the Division 3 Coordinator for further assistance. The Coordinator will work with the Coaches to resolve the more serious problems. Remember to follow the Parents Code:

  • Do not force an unwilling child to participate in soccer.

  • Remember children are involved in organized sports for their enjoyment, not yours.

  • Teach your child to play by the rules.

  • Teach your child that hard work and an honest effort are often more important than a victory.

  • Help your child work toward skill improvement and good sportsmanship in every game. Your child will then be a winner, even in defeat.

  • Support all efforts to remove verbal and physical abuse from youth sporting activities.

  • Set a good example. Children learn best by example. Do not yell at, ridicule or criticize your child or any other participant.

  • Applaud good plays by your team and by members of the opposing team.

  • Do not publicly question referees judgment or their honesty.

  • Recognize the value and importance of volunteer coaches, referees and officials and give them their due respect; without them, there would be no youth sports.

  • Be a positive role model whenever you are around any players.

  • Leave conflict resolution to the field marshals or officials.

  • Parents who are unable to abide by the code of conduct will be subject to review by the player committee and the BOD. Actions of said committees can include the suspension of parents from attendance at youth games, if such action is deemed necessary.


Providing a core of well trained, certified referees is a tremendous task. Referee coordinators work diligently all season long to provide coverage for the high volume of games that are played. Parents and coaches need to keep in mind how difficult it is to be a referee, especially if you are young. We continue to lose many referees every year because of the harassment they receive from coaches and parents. The role of referee must be recognized and respected by the coach, the team and the parents. Youth referees must be given the same respect as the adult referees. New referees must LEARN positioning, signals, timing of calls, flow of the game, command of the sidelines, and administrative issues. If you are patient and positive, that referee will become experienced and confident. That referee could be YOUR child! The referee in a soccer match has complete authority over players and coaches from the moment the referee enters the grounds to the time the referee leaves. Coaches, players, parents, and spectators shall never argue or dispute the decision of the referee or parent official, make negative or derogatory remarks or gestures towards a referee or parent official, or otherwise behave irresponsibly, or bring the game into disrepute. If the above should occur, the referee or parent official may do the following:

  1. Report the incident to the League for further action.

  2. Dismiss the coach from the game.

  3. Terminate the match and leave.

In addition to the action by the referee or parent official, the League may take further action including:

  1. Warning or probation.

  2. Suspension from one or more games.

  3. Suspension for one or more seasons.

Like all of us, referees will make mistakes. You are entitled to be disappointed when you think the referee is doing a poor job, but don’t express these feelings at the game. It is the coach’s responsibility to contact the Director of Referees if he or she feels a referee needs to improve on skills.



Many parents and coaches believe that commenting negatively, yelling at, or arguing with the decisions of the game officials, whether they are parents or licensed referees, is proper behavior and a normal part of youth sports. This is absolutely not true and is in violation of the CYSA/US Club Codes of Conduct. Add to this the increasing number of players who are also arguing with the officials and you can see why we are having a referee crisis. It is becoming increasingly difficult to recruit and retain referees because of this verbal abuse. Our Referees work very hard to make the game Safe, Fair and Fun for everyone and we need to realize that just like the players, the referees are a part of the game. A negative comment to a referee during a game reduces the pleasure and heightens the tension for officials, players, spectators, and other coaches. These comments accomplish nothing except for the diminishment of the Good of the Game. Parents, coaches, and players are entitled to a difference of opinion, but they are not permitted to display their dissent through word or action. Additionally, coaches are expected to be a role model and teacher of proper behavior to both the players and parents.